Okay, keep in mind that I’m a guy and what I say here is only my opinion on what women are really looking for. To any ladies that might read this, I sure would like some feedback on whether or not I’m even close.
Okay, in my last entry I said that we have to change the way we treat women online and re-educate ourselves on how to properly interact with them. To that end, I’m going to share my vision on what I think women want, even if they are afraid to tell you, (or perhaps they feel that you just wouldn’t understand).
First and foremost, they want you to acknowledge that they are people. Your ultimate goal may be to get them naked and have wild monkey sex but you need to realize that they are a person, just like you, and that they have feelings and wants and needs of their own. They are equal partners in any relationship, whether it be romantic, sexual, friendly or whatever. If they choose to be submissive in any way then understand that it’s not because you are the better of the two but simply because they have made that choice and are permitting you to be dominant.
They also want you to realize that they are not there simply to direct the boobs, the butt or the vagina on where to go. Those parts are attached to them and not the other way around. I don’t know any guys that would be comfortable going through life with everyone talking to their nipples instead of them, so talk to the person, not their body parts.
While most men are driven by sight and touch, women tend to be driven by words, both spoken and written, and emotions. Understand that any relationship need to be mutually beneficial in order to be successful in any way. This means that guys have to at least make an attempt at meaningful conversation and understanding and appreciating what’s important to her.
I believe that a woman not only wants to be appreciated for her ability to satisfy a man’s sexual needs, but also her ability to be a source of strength and inspiration. They want a man to be strong enough to walk beside them and share their dreams and aspirations, but he should also have enough faith in her, as a person, to be comfortable in letting his guard down and trusting that she will be there for him in times of self doubt and insecurity.
A woman wants to be listened to and not just heard. She wants to be understood and taken seriously and not simply patronized or dismissed as simply being silly. She wants to be seen and loved and accepted as more than just the sum of her body parts. She wants to be accepted as a person, just like we do.
Here’s a newsflash for some guys… . Women know that they have boobs, and nipples, and vaginas and tongues, they really do! So they want you to understand that there is so much more to them than just the things that we consider the “good stuff”. They want you to love the total package and not just the parts that make you cum.
When you go to kiss a woman, take the time to gently kiss her neck. Feel the texture of her hair against your skin and appreciate the soft scent of her. Don’t be afraid to tell her that it makes you happy and begins to excite you. She wants to know that!
Be soft and gentle and let your lips, tongue and fingers experience all of her and not just the obvious. Take your time and let her know by your actions that you are truly appreciative of this beautiful human being that you are lucky enough to be sharing time with. Most importantly, don’t avoid the imperfections, as they are just as much a part of her as anything else. Kiss the scars and the embrace the tell tale signs of motherhood that may be there. There is nothing ugly about them as they are a part of her and part of the life story that makes her unique and special. Worship her as if she were a living Goddess that walks among us, for she truly is just that. She has suffered pains and injustices that many of us men will never know and has strengths and abilities that we can’t even begin to comprehend or ever hope to acquire.
While making love, accept the responsibility of satisfying her needs as much as she is satisfying yours. Any female can have sex but only a real woman, who is comfortable with who she is and confident in herself, can truly satisfy a man and the reverse is also true. Any male can have sex, but only a true man can treat his partner as an equal and make her satisfaction just as important, if not more so, than his own.
Finally, let yourself appreciate everything about her. Men tend to put up walls that shut out feelings because they see them as effeminate and weak. That’s just plain bullshit. Allow yourself to feel and be secure enough to share those feelings without fear of appearing weak. Let her know that your heart races every time you think of her. Tell her how your skin tingles with her every touch. Don’t be afraid to let her know that you think she is just as desirable first thing in the morning in an old flannel nightgown, with her hair in shambles and no make up on as she was the night before when she was laying across the bed in that sexy lace teddy. Make sure that she is aware that whether you are having mad passionate sex, simply walking hand in hand, or thinking of her while you are apart, that you are the luckiest guy in the world to have her in your life and that she is the most incredible person that you know. Admire the woman that she is, but accept and appreciate the person that she is and support the person that she wants to be.
Bottom line is that a woman wants to be accepted and respected as a unique and special person, just like you do. Together, as the human race, we can lift each other up to magnificent heights and achieve incredible goals. It all starts with each of us as individuals and then it has a ripple effect that covers the world.
Okay, enough for now. I would appreciate some feedback, good or bad. Have a great day and Blessed Be.